Thursday, August 30, 2007

In an Inuksuk...

…there is warmth. It’s the Inuit way of saying “There’s someone there for you—you are not alone in your journey”. And so an Inuksuk made its journey all the way from Canada with Meenakshi and Aparna to tell us that we will always have company no matter where we go. Interestingly made from rocks from the Canadian shield, its outstretched greeting every morning is a great beginning.

But sometimes the great beginnings might have the not-so-great middles. Especially when you have a Rakhi making competition at school and are not endowed with the traditional creative instincts. All this made worse because you do not have a traditionally oriented mom who instead of gathering the mandatory tinsel, bindis, stick on peacocks and other feathered friends, hands you a pencil shaving in a perfectly turned out helix. “At least your mom did not give you different types of dal to make a Rakhi with”, said a friend encouragingly—her mother was another anti-traditionalist obviously more tuned in to gastronomic fantasies that gets extended into all spheres of life including art and craft.

So you take that pencil shaving and work it in with the other recycled materials and decide on a ‘Recycle—Save nature” theme. You love it, your friends love it and are in awe that you actually could create something out of what one would just chuck away in the dustbin. Encouraged by the adulation, you begin to hope for a prize. Just that the judges are watching out for the peacocks, roses, the shine and the shimmer and all that jazz. So they announce the first prize, and the second and the third…and there are no more prizes after that. You get off the bus with your Rakhi of the Recycled and no prize, till your mother hands you a pretty little draw string purse full of beautiful pebbles from a lake you will dream of visiting someday. “Look at the color—this one’s almost purple! Look at the lines! How old could this be? It looks so rough but feels so smooth! Thank you!” It’s a gift from a young colleague of your mom’s but for you it’s a prize you won.

So perfect are they that you know exactly what you must do with these pebbles. You sit together and build an Inuksuk. You put them together to remind you that you have what is more important—people who make you smile when you are sad and fill the icy moments of life with warmth.
We gave the Inuksuk a name. We call it Shiv, short for Shivranjini, who journeyed through the Himalayas to the Pangong Tso Lake and drew out from there the smooth, amazingly hued pebbles that became pebbles no more but a prize for an competition that wasn’t won. It will now stand as an Inuksuk from the Himalayas to remind us that there will always be someone—to bring in a smile, some cheer and a prize of pebbles from a lake on top of the world.

Wednesday, August 22, 2007

Hard Work for an Air Full of Nothing

Naga walked in holding on to her arm. It was swathed in Crepe bandage.

What happened, Naga, I asked?

“It’s my son, madam’, she grimaced. “He jumped on to me and swung on my arm like a monkey!”

“I thought my arm would come off, madam”, she said very seriously.

I tried a little harder not to laugh but it’s hard to keep a straight face when there’s an image of a monkey-kid swinging on a limb!

“What madam…so much we have to do to raise children! I need my arm to work no at the computer? Do they have any idea of how hard we work so that they can waste to buy things here and there?”

But Naga, that’s what we earn for isn’t it?

“Oh yes, Madam, we have to earn so that they can have all the good things we did not have. My mother did not sometimes have milk to give me and I have to buy Bournvita to put in the milk so that they will at least drink the milk without complaints.”

“And my son, he will not only drink but also eat the Bournvita. My daughter madam, is very adjusting but this son…so much waste he does without thinking how hard I work”, she grumbled on.

Come on, Naga, can we really expect them to understand how hard we work? It’s like the saying that our fathers had to take the stairs so that we could use elevators…

“Yes but Madam, it does not mean that we have to buy all the junk these silly advertising fellows put on TV. Other children will buy so mine will want and there I am buying packets of chips which are only air full of nothing and few chips.”

Hmm…that’s a thought I did not think of.

“Yes Madam, full of air those packets of Lays, Fritos, Cheetos and what not and we pay Rs 10 for each pack when we could have got the air for free…we only need to go out and take a deep breath, no madam? Why pay Rs 10 for it?”

Well…the air is supposed to keep the chips fresh and there are some chips in it, Naga.

“What Madam, may be two rupees worth of it. That Saif fellow cannot eat just one that is ok, no—he is anyway getting to eat the chips free to hold the packet on TV—but then when our children decide that they too cannot eat just one…all our money is going down the pockets of these chips company for the air they pack with the few thin potato bits.”

Kids need some junk food too once in a while, Naga. If you deprive them of it, they would want it more.

She grumbled on “But, no understanding they are having about the value of money, Madam. For them Rs 10 is like a piece of paper. I have been working since class 10 to earn and children today—all they want is leisure.

All I want is leisure too, Naga, I said to myself. All we all want is leisure. And isn't it ironic that we have to work our tails off for those moments of leisure and those packets of chips with air full of nothing?

In a Manner of Speaking

In a manner of speaking, everyone can be what he or she wants to be but you…you…you are the proverbial Caesar’s wife…you must be above suspicion. You must speak so that your words hurt none. You must behave so that your actions hurt none. You must at least make sure that you do not react to anything anyone says or does (or even thinks). Even if it hurts you a bit, or a little more than just a bit, or insults you big time and perhaps wants to make you shout so loud and so desperately that you want to scale the tallest tower in the vicinity or at least the tallest tree and let out a scream to provide the much needed release to your lungs (and soul!) and let everybody know how you feel…oh no, that option is not for you. You must be, in a manner of speaking, perfectly, politically correct in the most polished possible way.

And here you are, so plainly you, so blatantly blunt, not aspiring for the lofty heights of the painfully prosaic and mythical political correctness. So what are you going do you do? “Sharpen, up”, says a little thing. Sharpen eh? But sharp would hurt more wouldn’t it in a literal manner of speaking? Now that’s a thought—blunt as opposed to sharp—what’s the choice? Blunt wouldn’t kill you would think. Sharp is what would sting you think. The choice is your’s, everybody else around gets to punish you anyway they like anyway, for your verbal transgressions, your irate expressions—anything will be meted out to you from the icy cold shoulder or the ridiculously raucous smses. In a manner of speaking, why is it that everyone expects you to be the epitome of perfection while you see no proactive efforts on their part to attempt the same? Ah! Did you overlook the fine print…they have a right to just be themselves—so sensitive that they must express their emotional reactions to your actions. They believe however, that you lost your’s when you decided to lose your way and cross their paths.

But what do you believe in? You have the right to be you…do you? Then be so, you can’t make everyone happy…in a manner of speaking. You still need to do the decent thing bit, is it? Then, be yourself and do the decent bit and from your point of view, in a manner of speaking, that makes the others an ‘indecent’ lot…

“…So in a manner of speaking
I just want to say
That like you I should find a way
To tell you everything
By saying nothing…”*

*In a Manner of Speaking, Depeche Mode